None of this is to beat yourself up or criticize where you are or a decision you regret (think that was mentioned in the self criticism part). The important part is to realize the lesson and do what you can to move forward. No one is saying you’re a cry baby if you’re stuck or reflect on the past…it’s natural to miss it at times. The problem happens when people blame their past for everything in their current lives or spend a majority of their time wishing they were somewhere else. They miss the beauty of where they are at the moment. You will find the right path for you and it will be better than you could have magined.